Navigating the Holidays Away from Family

The holidays are often described as a time for gathering, laughter, and tradition. But for many people, this season can also bring quiet moments of loneliness. Being away from family, whether because of distance, work, or circumstance, can make the days feel slower and less familiar.

Human connection is deeply tied to emotional well-being. Regular interaction, even brief moments of social contact, helps us feel grounded and supported. When those interactions are limited, it is easy to feel disconnected not only from others but also from the sense of comfort that typically defines the holidays.

Acknowledge the Change

It is normal to feel out of sync when familiar cues are missing. The sound of conversation, the rhythm of a shared meal, or a favorite family tradition can serve as signals of comfort and belonging. When those experiences are absent, life feels quieter in ways that are hard to explain.

Acknowledging this shift helps create space for acceptance and adaptation. Reach out to loved ones through a phone call, a message, or a shared memory. Even small gestures maintain the emotional link that distance cannot fully break.

Create Opportunities for Connection

Family may not always be nearby, but connection can take many forms. Community, friendship, and shared experiences often fill the spaces that distance creates. Attending a local event, volunteering, or spending time with a neighbor can bring back some of the warmth and structure that the holidays are meant to provide.

If socializing feels overwhelming, start small. Visit the same café each morning, attend a group class, or take a daily walk where you might see familiar faces. Predictable, small interactions build a sense of connection and help ease feelings of isolation.

Find Comfort in the Present

Being away from family does not have to mean being disconnected from the season. Surround yourself with things that bring a sense of familiarity. Play music you love, cook something that reminds you of home, or decorate your space in a way that feels inviting.

Creating new routines can also bring comfort. This year’s traditions might look different, but they can still carry meaning. A quiet dinner with friends, sending cards to loved ones, or taking time to rest can all make the season feel grounded and peaceful.

Distance can make the holidays feel difficult, but connection and comfort are still possible. Small acts of social engagement, community involvement, and personal rituals all contribute to a sense of belonging. Even when family is far away, moments of warmth and connection can bring the season to life in new and meaningful ways.

Here’s to fewer battles and more breakthroughs.
Jacqueline Shackil, BCBA, MS, MSIO